I feel like I never really learned how to clean, and I don't handle not knowing things very well, and I just want to throw money at the problem and get a cleaner to come in every few weeks, which....is that me being a grownup with disposable income or me being avoidant? I honestly can't tell.
It's being a grownup with disposable income and choosing to dispose some of that income in such a way to minimize stress and roommate conflict, which is the very best reason to use your disposable income. Who the fuck cares if it's you being avoidant? The answer can be 'both', and that's not bad! PAYING MONEY TO STOP FEELING ASHAMED AND AWFUL EVERY TIME YOU LOOK AROUND YOURSELF IS A PERFECTLY VALID THING TO DO. You're not buying 'cleaning service', you're buying 'less conflict and fewer Bad Feelings', and that is worth it at just about any price.
We fiiiiinally got around to hiring a cleaning service to come in once every two weeks and it is SO WORTH IT, OH MY GOD. There is nothing inherently virtuous in doing your own cleaning! OUTSOURCE THAT SHIT.
Bonus, if you're there when they clean you can watch how they do it and get a good sense of how they do it, which can help you with the "I never learned how to clean" brainweasels, so that if you wind up having less disposable income in the future and wind up having to cancel the service, you'll have a better grounding. (If you want basic tips, btw, I can give them. There's basically like three things you need to know to be reasonably decent at cleaning and none of them are hard.)
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Date: 2014-12-10 01:00 am (UTC)It's being a grownup with disposable income and choosing to dispose some of that income in such a way to minimize stress and roommate conflict, which is the very best reason to use your disposable income. Who the fuck cares if it's you being avoidant? The answer can be 'both', and that's not bad! PAYING MONEY TO STOP FEELING ASHAMED AND AWFUL EVERY TIME YOU LOOK AROUND YOURSELF IS A PERFECTLY VALID THING TO DO. You're not buying 'cleaning service', you're buying 'less conflict and fewer Bad Feelings', and that is worth it at just about any price.
We fiiiiinally got around to hiring a cleaning service to come in once every two weeks and it is SO WORTH IT, OH MY GOD. There is nothing inherently virtuous in doing your own cleaning! OUTSOURCE THAT SHIT.
Bonus, if you're there when they clean you can watch how they do it and get a good sense of how they do it, which can help you with the "I never learned how to clean" brainweasels, so that if you wind up having less disposable income in the future and wind up having to cancel the service, you'll have a better grounding. (If you want basic tips, btw, I can give them. There's basically like three things you need to know to be reasonably decent at cleaning and none of them are hard.)